Baggage Claim

So we all have things we have had to deal with in our lives.  Some good, some bad.  Some of us dwell on the bad so much that we give it power over us.  Some of us shove our feelings in a closet and hope we lose the key and never have to deal with the pain.  Others of us are just disappointed with ourselves.  Maybe we feel alone or scared or defeated.  We feel that no matter what we do in our lives, we always fail.  I'm sure we have all had these feelings at one time or another, but it is what we do with those feelings and how we deal with them that can make or break our future.  We can NOT change other peoples behavior, no matter how hard you try.  If one of the things that you need to face from your past involves another person, your first reaction could be to tell them how they wronged you.  I can guarantee you that this will solve nothing and could make things worse for you.  The first thing we have to do is change ourselves.  We need to become okay with ourselves and who we are.  We have to acknowledge the pain and face it head on, so that we can move forward.  Taking small steps every day is the best way to create a change for the better.  We can be our own worst enemy, so we have to start with ourselves.  Blaming others for our problems will inhibit us from moving on, but so does fear of the unknown.  Analyze your problem and see what you are gaining from staying where you are, then see what you could gain from leaving it behind.   Once we let go of our anger and resentment from our past and realize that we are responsible for our feelings (yes, even the ones others "inflict" upon us); we will be able to move forward and focus on our weight loss goals.  Bob Harper in Are You Ready says " Starting with your physical body-- through diet, fitness, or both-- gives you confidence, the essential ingredient you need to let go of old behaviors and feelings that are no longer working for you so that you can turn to a new way of living that is all about self-empowerment."  I hope this helps and that you are all getting a chance to read Bob's book.